Why Every Engaged Couple Could Use a Therapist

If you're about to get married, you’ve probably reviewed wedding preparations - your clothes, the flowers, the venue - a million times. But here’s a better question—what are you doing to get ready for your marriage... emotionally, relationally, realistically?

Because let’s be honest: Love is beautiful, weddings are fun, and marriage is work. Sacred, meaningful, roll-up-your-sleeves kind of work. And therapy—yes, even when things are good—can be one of the best investments you make before the big day.

Therapy isn’t a red flag—it’s a gift.

Some people hear “couples therapy” and immediately think of fighting, cheating, or the brink of breakup. But therapy before marriage? That’s like taking your relationship to the gym. It’s proactive. It’s strengthening. It says, We want to do this well. We’re not perfect, but we’re willing to grow. That’s not a red flag—it’s relationship gold.

Let’s talk about things you are not fighting about…yet…

Many couples don’t argue until they get married—because that's when the invisible expectations, inherited family scripts, and differences in communication styles come out to play. Therapy gives you space to explore these things before they turn into conflict. How do you handle money? What’s your relationship with boundaries? How do you each express love—and hurt?

These aren't "issues"—they're opportunities. And they can shape your future marriage in the most honest, connected way.

Your wedding is one day. Your marriage is every day.

There’s so much energy put into the event—the flowers, the playlist, the seating chart drama—but what about the emotional foundation you’re building beneath it all? Therapy helps you zoom out. It reminds you what really matters: feeling seen, safe, and supported by each other long after the dance floor clears.

Real intimacy means real conversations.

In therapy, you learn to navigate the hard stuff without losing each other in it. You learn what triggers you, how to stay on the same team, and how to repair when things get messy (because they will). You also get to celebrate what’s working, and name the values you want to build your marriage around.

If you ask me, therapy before marriage isn’t about fixing anything—it’s about creating space for truth, trust, and togetherness. And if you're the kind of couple that wants to love each other well—not just on the honeymoon, but in the real-life Tuesdays after—it’s a powerful place to begin.

Ready to lay the emotional foundation for your future?
Contact me for couples therapy or read about my approach here.

Let’s make sure your “forever” starts strong.